Adulting and It's Many Questions

By: Kelsey Smith


Adulting. It seems to be a buzzword these days and always has a negative connotation. Nobody seems to be excited or honored to be an adult. Whenever adulting hits, we long for the days of being a child with little responsibilities.

So what gives? What changes our attitude? Does it happen the second we graduate college and have to find a job, a place to live, and a suitable mate ASAP? Is it when we are still eating ramen noodles so we can afford to pay our bills? Is it when we are sleep deprived from balancing our social lives with our work schedule?

I have been struggling with being an adult lately, specifically in the realm of my job. I work in the music industry, but have to pick up side jobs to help supplement my income. I recently had an opportunity for more work, so I took it. But after a couple of weeks I became unhappy.

Is this just a normal part of working? Is it one of those phases that will pass in due time? Or will my unhappiness be permanent and a sign that I need to start looking for work elsewhere?


It seems as though we were all told growing up that the ultimate goal was to love your job so much that it felt like you were never going to work a single day in your life. Is that even realistic? Do people have that luxury? And do the people that have that luxury, are they the lucky ones?

In our culture, we want instant happiness and instant gratification. So if I’m unhappy at my job, then I need to quit and find a new one. Right? Or wrong?

Maybe these are questions that cannot always be answered. Maybe we will be able to answer them in 5, 10 or 20 years. Maybe the answers look different for different people. But I’m here to tell you that you are not alone in your struggle.

You aren’t the only one out there thinking what you’re thinking. I wish we could all be honest about our struggles, and then be able to work together to come up with a plan.

I want to change the status quo. I want to give adulting a good reputation. I want to be killing the adulting game. Care to join me?